It’s okay to take time to mourn who you were or who you think you could have been without your trauma. While we’re forced to live with it, it is absolutely okay to have feelings about it and grieve for what it’s taken from you.
Worst Case vs. Best Case Scenarios by Karina Farek.
This is a great joke, but it’s also a wonderful strategy for reducing anxiety that I learned about in therapy. If you’re ever nervous about something, just ask yourself: what’s the best thing that can happen? What’s the worst thing? What will most likely happen?
We need to stop thinking like this. It can be so easy to fall into these thought patterns. But if you’re having a hard time, and this is what you’re thinking, then I think you’re breaking your own heart.
Our loved ones often do care. Sometimes they are too mentally drained to notice what’s happening with others, or perhaps they’re completely oblivious for other reasons or maybe they’re thinking “if they want to talk about it, they’ll tell me. I don’t want to push them.” Maybe they have some things going on themselves.
People have their own lives and while it feels nice when our loved ones notice when things are off with us, them not noticing doesn’t mean they don’t care.
It’s okay to tell your loved ones you’re having a hard time. If you’re comfortable, you should tell them. It’s also helpful if you tell them how they can help whether it’s by offering support, someone to listen or any number of things.
Please stop thinking people don’t care because they can’t read your mind.
I realize this might sound harsh but my life got so much better when I communicated with my friends.
I used to constantly hint at things or try and get my friends to notice my symptoms. And maybe they did notice but it was exhausting that I was hinting or maybe they honestly didn’t notice. But I’d convince myself they didn’t care about me and it would send me on a spiral.
It was so hard to get to a point where I could be upfront. It didn’t happen over night. But it is so freeing and nice to be able to message my friend and say “hey. It’s a bad day today. I could use some support”.
“It means… some good things may happen, and some bad things may happen… But don’t let small things bother you, and always do what you believe is best. That’s what it means. And that’s all it means.” -Katrina 🔮
